encouragement

You Go Glen Coco

“Love yourself girl or nobody will.” – J. Cole

To Whom it May Concern-

You are incredible, no matter how you feel, what has been said about you, what has happened to you. You were created with purpose and immeasurable value. Do not let the opinions of people you have slight encounters with change how you should see yourself. Don’t allow lies to fill your head and cause pain in your heart. Know where you’ve been, know where/who you want to be, do what you need to do and love yourself. Live with integrity; aware of both your strengths AND weaknesses.

Remember, you is kind, you is smart, you is important.

Be blessed.🌻

-HCP

– Sorry for the absence y’all! I’ll be back soon but wanted to give some words of encouragement for anyone in need- cliche as it may be… A little reminder never hurt nobody.

– Jesus loves you; even when you don’t.

– 2 Timothy 1:7 (NIV) – For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.

– The usual humor and wit will be back soon enough.💃🏻

before you wreck yo'self

Check Yourself.

“Be a thermostat, not a thermometer.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

This quote has been interpreted and used in many different ways by an endless amount of reputable people – from authors to speakers to pastors, you name it. So here I am – neither an author, speaker, pastor or anyone technically qualified expounding on it. Great! You’re so excited!

People are always complaining about how shitty (pardon my French, I speak it fluently) others are, often times without looking at themselves. Ever think the exact people you’re complaining about learned their undesirable, negative tendencies by simply observing others?! Maybe, maybe not.

You can either be a thermometer, reflecting the people around you; Or you can be a thermostat, a person who sets the temperature in the room. You’d be surprised at the amount of impact just setting a positive example can make. Sometimes when setting an example, it may not impact the person you’re aiming for, but if one person catches on, that’s one good deed you did for the world. Think about it, if we take away the exhaustion, wrinkles, and taxes, we are all adult-sized children- impressionable. Some lack etiquette, some lack inside voices, some lack respect, or other common traits that usually qualify someone as being a “good” person. Children learn by watching their parents, siblings, peers, teachers, their favorite character on a screen, and other various adults. Do you think as ‘grownups’ we grow out of observing/emulating behaviors? Mmm, it’s gonna be a no from me *que Simon Cowell*.

{I primarily work with kids, hence why I keep using them as examples.} Working with kids since I was still one myself helped me SO much with awareness and knowing someone is always watching. I guess you could even say it helped form my integrity along with choices I make daily (thankfully). Regardless if there are big or little eyes around, I constantly find myself thinking, “hmmm would I want Precious Bean #1 or Precious Bean #2 doing that? Or knowing I did that?” Chances are they would never know, but what are the chances they did? Yeah… I’d rather not risk it. Not to mention just the thought of being dishonest or unkind kinda gives me the heebee geebees (totally how you spell that). I’m fully aware of what kind of thermostat I expect myself to be and am very intentional with my actions.; mainly because God and I (and Santa) ALWAYS know what I’m up to, which is the most important. Anywho, by no means am I saying you have to take care of kids in order to be intentional or sweet, nor am I tooting my own horn, but I am positive it’s helped me make wise(r) decisions. I’m saying all of this in such a loving and encouraging way because it is so important to BE THE EXAMPLE- for everyone, not just kids. And no, not in a psycho controlling “I’m better than everyone” judgmental type of way… That’s an example in itself and a deserved ‘bye Felicia👋🏻’one at that.

Small, simple, free (HOLLA🙌🏻), random acts of kindness can set such a good tone in someone’s day… Maybe even enough for them to pass it on? Maybe even enough to encourage them to make it a habit? Wait! Then we have another person with kind intentions on our hands??? Oh no… that sounds awful-ly wonderful! With all of this being said, please, please, PLEASE do not do be kind with the expectation or intent of getting something in return or to brag about it- both verbally and on social media.😉 Do it with genuine kindness in your heart because that’s how you want to treat others. Heck, hopefully it’ll end up making you happy just knowing you were a positive light in someones day.

Aside from MLK Jr, we also have the wildly popular Ghandi “be the change you wish to see in the world”, MJ’s “Man in the Mirror”, Matthew 5:14-16. Whatever you choose to listen to, read, internalize so you can execute said suggested actions and behaviors, do it. My (again technically unqualified) guess is that this “start from within” thing that is preached about so frequently is probably because it’s true.

Be a thermostat and set the tone (temperature) of your surroundings. Don’t be so concerned with others and their actions to the point where it effects you and your REactions.  How you engage with others is—as always— up to you. Contribute to society from the inside out- spread love, compassion, respect, appreciation, kindness, be intentional, blah blah blah you know what to do; But most importantly, be your example (thermostat).

Be blessed.🌻

-HCP

 

*Your kids, spouse, family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, grocery store clerk, and the person you didn’t honk at for driving 15mph below the speed limit thank you for your kindness.

* You will have to be the bigger person from time to time, but you know, the bigger the better, right? Like the bigger margarita or bottle of wine?

* Matthew 5:14-16(NIV)                                                                                                                     14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”

Storytime with a Lesson

It’s Just Funny. 

“It’s getting hot in here.” – Nelly

{Story time} Now this is a story all about how my life almost burnt to the ground. Seriously, I literally set my kitchen on fire… Not just once, not twice, and now that I think about it it’s been too many times to remember. Oops. It probably didn’t help that I had a rather dated(yet charming) kitchen with appliances that practically created appliances, but alas, I cannot cast all the blame on the dinosaurs. Any-who, Once upon a time I cooked dinner for my friend and things got pretty heated…

Earlier that day while running errands, I saw some oven mitts and thought to myself, “hmm I haven’t burnt any pasta lately”, so obviously ya girl deserved some mitts.💁🏻 I got home and quickly began putting everything away where it belonged (my mom’s reading this and I’m trying to make her proud, y’all. Realistically, everything probably sat on my kitchen table for 3 hours and chances are I remembered I got ice cream or some other type of perishable item and then the urgency kicked in…) Later that evening I started preheating the oven as I began preparing the rest of the dish (cooking for dummies). Honestly couldn’t tell you what I was making if that’s any indication as to how great and unforgettable the actual food was.😉 My friend got there, we were talking as I was cooking and all of a sudden we smelled something burning. It was coming from the oven and I remember thinking, “oh brother, now I’m burning things before they even go in?!?” So I opened the oven and initially didn’t see anything- then noticed smoke coming through the hinges from what looked like underneath?? I quickly opened the drawer below the oven; Low and behold, flames were ablazin’! This clearly shows how much I knew about kitchens/cooking… The “drawer” I so happily (and hastily😉) put my brand new and adorable oven mitts away in earlier was the BROILER!!!  By this point the smoke detector was going off- loud and proud, but in that moment all I could do was laugh, so I did. Mind you my friend is there watching this fiasco go up in flames, so that was groovy. As I jumped to action and started filling anything within reach able to hold water in (weak) efforts to set out the fire, I just kept laughing. Partially at the situation, but mainly at myself and my excitement to cook yet lack of ability; Not to mention the fact that I had been a proud owner of oven mitts for a solid 6 hours before cremating them. Thankfully my friend did not find it as humorous as I did and jumped in to help so I (still laughing, probably coming off as a psycho pyro at this point) walked around opening doors and windows. I was right to have faith in my friend, he tamed the beast and trouble was averted.

The phrase we’ve all heard a million times, “laughter is the best medicine”, could not be more true. If you know me or have ever talked to me, you have undoubtedly heard me say, “it’s just funny”. If you don’t know me, I say that phrase- a lot. For example, when I’m talking about something sad or unfortunate that happened or is currently happening and someone goes, “oh, I’m so sorry”, I usually respond with, “I’m good, it’s just funny”, followed by the lesson I took from it or how I’m going to approach it. Obviously it would not be sustainable to disregard, suppress, neglect, “laugh-off”, every feeling connected to some type of distress, trauma or undesired occurrence. Literally speaking from experience because I did that for a majority of my life and here I am paying the mental/emotional price for it. Whoops. Often times it’s hard to make a sound, logical decision in a frantic state of mind. So before you go Britney Spears circa 2007, step back, take a deep breath (or 20), acknowledge the situation for what it is, maybe do some yoga, pray on it if you’re into that and/or lack flexibility so you can make a logical assessment of whatever the situation may be and start fixing/dealing with it. Remember, you can’t control/repair everything which I know is easier said than done because I tried… and failed. **IMPORTANT: Obviously if you’re dealing with someone that’s losing an excessive about of blood, stay calm and keep breathing, but don’t step back and assess how long it takes them to pass out from said blood loss. I believe in you and your common sense.** Is laughing while a fire could potentially burn your apartment/building down the best way to handle it? Probably not. Did/does laughing initially keep me sane in a lot of situations before analyzing, rationalizing, fixing or forgiving? Yes! I’m very grateful my mantra “it’s just funny” works so well for me despite frequently ill-timed yet beneficial laughter. Hopefully you’re able to find humor in most situations, and if you’re not into my personal helper, that’s totally fine! Maybe you can be like Daughtry and pursue a life full of laughter or remember Ecclesiastes 3:4. But if neither of those work for you, Trader Joe’s sells bottles of wine for $2. You’re welcome.

*Regarding control*- Letting Jesus take the wheel and feeling like I’m ‘losing’ control is one of my biggest weaknesses, but through Him- one of my biggest strengths. Learning to put my trust in the Lord is the best thing I have ever done (aside from teaching myself how to cook to avoid anymore fires😂). Positive: I’m addressing/tackling my demons head on. Yes, it is thunderbolts of lightning, very, VERY frightening, but it’s so fun being able to acknowledge growth in yourself. And again, my boy Jesus is always with me – he says, “hola”. BUT all of that is a topic for a different post…

Today, I can confidently say I have a pair of oven mitts that I have yet to set ablaze. Nor have I even started a fire; it’s amazing what kitchen appliances that aren’t nearing their 75th birthday can do… I’m happy I taught myself how to cook, and by cook I mean follow directions. That’s my main complaint about following a recipe- not knowing why I’m doing something or being told to dirty 9 dishes to make one meal… I like knowing “why” for pretty much everything in life though, so I can’t bash cooking for that. Following directions is not one of my strong suits i.e. I tell my GPS to stop telling me what to do all the time. Emphasis on the whole ‘working on letting go of control thing’. Yikes. In my opinion, cooking can also help you practice timing/prioritizing ooooor maybe I’m just trying to justify the fact that I have to wait 9 years to safely eat chicken.. It’s fine though, it’s just funny. 

Choose your friends wisely, you never know when you’re going to set oven mitts on fire. Shoutout to G – You’re great for saving us, Simon(my cat), along with my apartment. My security deposit and I thank you.

Be blessed.

-HCP🌵

 

* Ecclesiastes 3:4 (NIV) 4 a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.

* I understand everyone handles emergencies differently. I’m ‘in my zone’ and at total peace in the height of an emergency. Keeping calm and taking deep breaths seems to aid rational thoughts- a VERY helpful thing when dealing with an urgent situation.

* If you ever have a house fire and need to call 911make sure you try not to laugh ON the phone with the dispatcher. They may be under the impression that something else is going on and you probably don’t want that.

* If what you’re able to find humor in is or could be considered insensitive to other people involved, please use proper discretion and don’t announce it aloud. Wait until you’re in the privacy of your own home or car to laugh.